Disclaimer: Do not proceed if you are going to be easily offended or sensitive to these points I am making. Trust me, it's not meant to offend. I have been there. I still struggle with many of these things - which is why I can speak so candidly about them. I totally understand it!! This was/is ME! And so, the paragraphs below are me sharing with you a very blunt explanation, at least from my viewpoint, of some of our most common issues hindering weight loss.
Excuses. I am very passionate about this subject when it comes to getting healthy, fit and losing weight. You know what they say...excuses are like assholes...everyone has one. This is TRUE. I had excuses. I still have excuses, though I try to be conscious about this and give myself a kick in the butt or reality check when I find myself making them.
The truth is, 95% of excuses people give, even if they "sound" legit, are BULL. (The exception to this, is of course, medical issues or people who are very ill and on medication that truly does cause substantial weight gain). Oh, what's that? Your mother, grandmother, great grandmother and all of your aunts are obese and obesity runs in your family? Who cares! You have no time to work out? Well trust me, if it's truly a priority to get fit, you CAN make time! Your leg hurts, so you can't exercise? Do upper body exercises while you sort out your leg! You are an food addict, just like an alcoholic? I don't doubt it, but admitting you have a problem can be the first step, not a declaration of hopelessness! And oh, that's awful about splitting from your boyfriend, and finding your fish belly-up, and your best friend moving away, and being demoted at work. I truly feel for you and you totally deserve some time to grieve and feel upset. You deserve some "woe is me" time for sure - but it's not an excuse to go on a week-long junk binge, that will only make you feel worse! (trust me, I've done it!) Maybe instead you could put your pissed-off energy into some kick-ass workouts?! What's that? You are older than me and your metabolism isn't what it used to be and your habits are more engrained and you have aches and pains I just can't understand? That's just more excuses! Do you think you are the only "older" person in the history of the planet with these issues? And do you think nobody has ever overcome them? Of course that's not the case!!! Ok, so maybe you have more working against you. But again, it's just a matter of will.
Take it from me - I have used all of these excuses at one point or another (and then some). Obesity does "run in my family"...somehow I managed to overcome it! And having no time? That is a HUGE one! The fact is - where there is a will, there is a way. There was a period of time in the beginning that I was seeing great success in my fitness journey - along with working 70 hour weeks and taking care of my house, and family including 2 young daughters. My husband worked more than 40 hours a week too, so I also had to juggle against his crazy schedule. There were times that I got up at 3:30 am to work out, because that was the only time I could find. I am not saying it was easy...it certainly wasn't. It sucked, and it was hard. But that was what I needed to do in order to succeed, and so I did it. I made the sacrifices necessary because losing weight and getting healthy was truly one of my priorities. I have juggled many things during the last 2 years. Family, working overtime, grad school, being a chapter leader for Moms RUN This Town, training for half marathons, organizing a virtual 5k....and through it all, I (generally) maintained my priorities, even when it was hard because I felt like I had no free time. My point here is not to brag or to make myself sound all superior...trust me, I stumbled plenty of times...rather, my point is simply that time is NOT a good excuse. Time is what you make of it and sacrifices may be required. It is hard, but totally worth it in the end.
Next up - honesty. You say you have "tried everything". Pills, weight loss programs, and even the old fashioned "eating healthy and exercising". Seriously though? You "tried", but did you truly give it 100%? Or did you give up in 2 weeks when you didn't see results? Was your version of healthy truly healthy? Or did you just swap out your 10 regular Oreos for 15 reduced-fat Oreos? I hear all the time that people already tried the old fashioned way, and it didn't work. There is a reason for that, and it isn't because your body is simply meant to be fat!
Taking responsibility for your actions is also a major issue that you must overcome before you see success. It is not your spouses fault that YOU ate an entire box of fruit loops just because he or she bought it for your kids. It is not your spouses fault that YOU ordered nachos, onion rings and a 2,000 calorie dessert when you went out to eat after he or she suggested a date night. It is also not your mother's fault that YOU ate 10 chocolate chip cookies when she made them while your family was visiting her house. Again - this isn't easy, but you need to stop putting blame on other people and you need to find your willpower. The fact is, this journey is not just about losing the weight, but it is about maintenance. You can't expect everybody around you to eat exactly as you need to, for the rest of your life. You need to get used to dealing with reality, and the reality is that there will always be temptations. It is up to YOU and YOU alone, to have some willpower. Willpower is not easy to find. I still lose mine sometimes. I try to stick with it by remembering my long term goals and asking myself, how will this affect those goals and how does that compare to the temporary happiness it will bring me? How would I feel afterwards if I ate half of this pizza? Ok - sometimes even asking myself that won't stop me from eating it and then feeling guilty and bloated afterwards. But I try. And more often than not, it does help, as demonstrated by my 85 lb loss in the last 22 months. I make mistakes, but I move on from them rather than letting them cause me to make more excuses or get frustrated enough to give up.
Oh - and fad diets and pills? The HCG diet? NOT GOING TO WORK. The majority of the time, it either doesn't work at all, or works but then the weight comes piling back on once you go back to normal. And trust me - you WILL go back to normal. These diets and plans are impossible to do for the rest of one's life. Plus, they would be unhealthy to do for the rest of one's life! The only "diet" worth being on, is simply eating normally and healthfully. It is the hardest, but most easily maintained in the long-term. Honestly I could and probably will eventually make a whole blog post dedicated to just this...but I digress.
So really. Quit making excuses. Quit blaming everyone else. I don't give
a shit what other people around you are eating - nobody is forcing crap
down your throat. I realize it is delicious and addicting and tempting.
Why do you think I (or any of "us") got fat in the first place?! But if
you want to make a change, you need to be willing to actually make the change.
And when it comes down to it, that is what we all desire right? To get healthy and STAY healthy!